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Scripture Memory: God, Our Father.

VERSE : Romans 8:15 “For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.”

 

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O Worship the LORD in the Beauty of Holiness

26 June 2016

8am & 11am: Worship Service

Rev Charles Seet (Antioch: The Planting of a New Church, Acts 11:19-30)

6:00 pm Evening Service

Rev Jack Sin (The Ten Pounds, Lk 19:11-27)

3 July 2016

8am & 11am: Worship Service

Rev Quek Keng Khwang (The Unstoppable God, Acts 12:1-25)

6:00 pm Evening Service

Rev Charles Seet (The Invited Guest at the Wedding, Jn 2:1-11)

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DO YOU HONOUR YOUR PARENTS?

“Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.” (Exodus 20:12)

Contrary to what many people think, the fifth commandment is not only meant for children. We must not think that once we have grown up and become independent, we are completely free from all duties, obligations and responsibilities to our parents. We must honour them throughout our entire life.

How Should You Honour Your Parents?

1. Respect their position and authority.

Leviticus 19:3 – “Ye shall fear every man his mother, and his father.” Always greet and acknowledge them (cf. Genesis 31:35). Do not ignore or take them for granted. Do not call them by their first names. Treat them as you would treat a guest of honour (cf. 1 Kings 2:19).

2. Follow their instructions.

Ephesians 6:1 – “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.” Listen quietly and attentively to them. Do not interrupt them when they speak. Obey them in the Lord (Colossians 3:20 – “Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.”).

3. Provide for them in sickness and old age.

Proverbs 23:22 – “Hearken unto thy father that begat thee, and despise not thy mother when she is old.” The Lord has arranged a beautiful bond of mutual care between generations. Parents have the privilege of caring for their children for the first years of life and children have the privilege of caring for their parents for the last few years of life. Even if your parents are well and sufficiently provided for with CPF and Medisave, you should not forget them when you settle down and have your own family. Make it a point to visit or call them at least once a week to ease their loneliness, which so easily comes along with growing old.

Sometimes it is difficult to take care of an aged parent who is sick or bed-ridden, and becomes a great financial burden. One needs to have much love and patience to take care of a parent who suffers from things like dementia, incontinence, stroke, blindness, deafness, and loss of appetite. Imagine yourself in their situation, and try your best to empathise with them. Remember that one day, it will be your turn to go through the process of ageing, and loneliness (Ecclesiastes 12:1 – “…while the evil days come not, nor the years draw nigh, when thou shalt say, I have no pleasure in them.”). Do your best to make their final days on earth as pleasant as you would like your own final days to be.

4. Do not take advantage of them.

Do not treat your parents as servants, e.g. making use of them to baby-sit your kids at very short notice. Do not seek for a bigger share of the inheritance from them (E.g. The prodigal son demanded his share of the inheritance even before his father died and then squandered it all away. – Luke 15:12)

5. Do not speak evil of them, even though they may not be perfect.

It is sinful to reveal their sins to others and speak of them in a despising manner. Honour them even in what you say to others. If there is nothing good that you can say about your parents, keep silent about them. If you need to correct them, do not scold or criticise, but entreat them or plead with them (cf. 1 Timothy 5:1 – “Rebuke not an elder, but intreat him as a father”).

What if your parents have treated you unfairly compared to the way they treated your siblings? Do you still have to honour them? Yes, because honour is due to them, not because they have earned it or are worthy of it, but because of the eternal relationship that exists between parent and child. The child came into being through its parents. That in itself gives them right to receive honour from the child. No child will ever have any other parents from whom he derived his life.

Why Should You Honour Your Parents?

1. Because parental authority represents God’s authority.

One passage that demonstrates the connection between parental authority and God’s authority is the passage on the descendants of Jonadab, son of Rechab (Jeremiah 35:6-10). For their obedience to their father, God commended them and held them up as an example for the Israelites who did not obey Him.

2. Because there is a promise attached to the commandment.

The promise attached to the 5th commandment is that of long life on earth (Ephesians 6:3 – “That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.”). There are two possible ways that this promise may be fulfilled:

Firstly, obedient children are a blessing to their parents and will take care of them even in their old age. As a result, parents will generally live longer. The aged parents, in turn, will continue to provide wisdom and guidance out of their rich experience that will help their children to prosper and weather the storms of life (cf. Proverbs 1:8-9).

Secondly, Christian children who obey their parents will also understand obedience to authority and to God. They will not become rebellious, trouble-making misfits, but good law-abiding citizens. This augurs well for a life of tranquillity that would tend to prolong their life.

3. Because children who do not provide for their parents in their sickness or old age bring shame and disgrace upon themselves.

Proverbs 28:24 – “Whoso robbeth his father or his mother, and saith, It is no transgression; the same is the companion of a destroyer.”

Proverbs 19:26 – “He that wasteth his father, and chaseth away his mother, is a son that causeth shame, and bringeth reproach.”

1 Timothy 5:8 – “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”

When Should You NOT Obey Your Parents?

1. Moral Matters

In moral matters, disobedience is justified when parents instruct their children to do something against Scripture, e.g. to worship idols, or to cheat, lie, or steal for them. King Hezekiah rejected the idolatrous upbringing of his father, King Ahaz, and instead followed the path of his godly ancestor, King David (2 Kings 18:3).

The command for children to obey their parents in Ephesians 6:1 carries an important qualifier: “in the Lord.” Parental authority can only be disregarded when it violates God’s higher authority. Jacob followed his mother’s instruction to deceive Isaac in order to steal Esau’s blessing (Genesis 27:8). He might have thought that he was absolved of all guilt for this deception since his mother had said, “Upon me be thy curse, my son: only obey my voice, and go fetch me them.” (v.13) But Jacob was already 40 years old. He obeyed his mother, but disobeyed God.

2. Non-Moral Matters

The situation is different if the child’s parents instruct him in non-moral matters. For example, Genesis 28:6,7 tells us that Jacob “obeyed his father and his mother, and was gone to Padanaram” because they wanted him to marry a wife from Padanaram. This was clearly a matter of parental preference. Parents have a right to be involved in the choice of a marriage partner, but the responsibility for the choice must be borne by the child who marries.

A similar situation can occur today. E.g. a father does not want his grown-up son to marry a lady he is interested in, only on grounds that she is older than him; or a mother wants her married daughter to reject her husband’s decision to buy a new flat. This may be difficult to handle, but two principles can be considered to solve this:

a. Persuasion: Although obedience to parents is also called for in non-moral issues, this does not mean we cannot persuade them to change their minds on these issues. Loving persuasion can be a big help if parents are willing to listen.

b. Independence: As long as we are not financially independent from them we still have to obey them, if they refuse to be persuaded. But if we have our own job and become responsible for our own lives, our parents must allow us to assume full responsibility for choosing a marriage partner, a vocation, or investments in life.

When a person is married, he leaves his father and mother and cleaves to his wife (Genesis 2:24). Marriage indicates that the couple is now independent of their parents’ control. This does not mean they can ignore whatever their parents say. They should still respect the counsel of their parents, but they should not feel compelled to do everything that their parents dictate to them on non-moral issues (Cf. Moses, toward his father-in-law, in Exodus 18:13-24).

This includes unsolicited advice on how to raise the grandchildren. Dear grandparents, while you mean well in giving such advice to your married children, please let them decide on the best way to raise their own children. Do not interfere and put undue pressure on them to follow your advice.

Robertson McQuilkin puts it this way: “Much grief and marriage failure come from the sinful interference of parents in their children’s married life and the sinful acceptance of that interference on the part of the married son or daughter.”

May the Lord help us to honour our parents.

                                                                  — Pastor

 

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Thanksgiving from the Tan Family 

Dear Pastors and Fellow Lifers,

 

It was Cheow Hock’s wish that as we remember him, we celebrate God’s goodness in his life. It was important to him that we can move forward and remain strong in the Lord. He emphasised that whether in death or in life, all glory be to God.

Ephesians 6:6-7:  Not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart; With good will doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men. 

When Cheow Hock was in the hospice, we put together a selection of his favourite songs/hymns. Even during his difficult moments and in pain, he would mouth the words of the song, Day by Day and meditate upon it. 

Day by day, day by day,

O dear Lord, three things I pray:

To see Thee more clearly,

Love Thee more dearly,

Follow Thee more faithfully,

Day by day. 

We want to thank the church for all the support and love that have been showered upon us. It made his sending off much easier to bear. We can see that Cheow Hock was truly much loved by the church. We know that he would want the church to continue to serve the Lord with a spirit of unity. Whenever you think of him, remember that he will be smiling at us from heaven above. Amen. 

Mrs Tan Poh Yok & Family

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GOSPEL SUNDAY

Date: 31st July 2016    Time: 8 am & 11 am

Topic: “The Unchanging Christ in a Changing World”

Speakers:   Rev Peter Tan (English Service)

Rev Kew See Seong (Mandarin/Cantonese)

Members are encouraged to invite their friends and relatives.

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CMI SEMINAR

Topic: QUESTION EVOLUTION! ARE YOU READY FOR ANSWERS?
Speaker:
Dr Mark Harwood
Date:
23 July 2016 (Saturday)
Time:
9.30am – 2.30pm  (Lunch provided)
Venue:
Beulah Centre MPH
On-line registration:
http://www.lifebpc.com/cmi-seminar

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ERBL LECTURES (JUL-NOV 2016)

 

Day                         Time                 Course   Lecturer

Mon              7.30 - 9.30 pm    New Age, Cults & Occults           Rev Dr Jack Sin

Tue               10 - 12.00 pm     Unfolding Drama of Redemption           Rev Ho Chee Lai

Wed              10 - 12.00 pm     Epistles of Peter    Rev Isaac Ong

Thu               10 - 12.00 pm     Missions      Rev Jack Sin

                     7.30 - 9.30 pm                    Revelation  Rev Ho Chee Lai

Fri 10 - 12.00 pm                     The Pentateuch     Rev Charles Seet

Lectures begin on 11 Jul 16. Please complete registration forms and place them in the box, together with payment.

 

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1) Life BP Church Camp 2017 will be held from June 12-15 (Mon-Thu) at Batam Holiday Inn Resort. Do book your annual leave now to join us for a blessed time of fellowship, and exhortations from God’s Word.

2) Scripture Memory Verse Review No. 2. A written review exercise of the verses is obtainable at the front counter. Review No. 1 are also available for those who missed it. Please submit by next Sunday.

3) “Daily Manna”: Daily Devotional by Rev Isaac Ong (Jul to Sep 2016). Available at the front counter. The same devotions are available online at http://www.calvaryjurong.com/index-4.html.

4) Coffee Corner. 3 more helpers required at 8.30 am. Please contact Daniel Phang .

5) Catechism Class for Anniversary Baptism on 16 Oct 2016 commences on 10 Jul 16 at Beulah Centre Rm 2-1, 9.40am. Please pre-register by emailing church office or filling up the form available at the front counter. Those seeking baptism, reaffirmation of faith and transfer of membership must attend the catechism class. Closing date: 4 Jul 16.

 

Preaching appt:  Rev Khoo on overseas mission till 1 Jul.

Vision & Mission

 

To build a united church family that is committed to making disciples through Salvation, Sanctification and Service, to the glory of God.

Verse for the Week

October 15 & 22 - The Cost of Discipleship

For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it. Matthew 16:25