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Scripture Memory: Christ Returns.

VERSE: Revelation 1:7 “Behold, he cometh with clouds; and every eye shall see him, and they also which pierced him: and all kindreds of the earth shall wail because of him. Even so, Amen.”

 

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O Worship the LORD in the Beauty of Holiness

18 June 2017

8am & 11am: Worship Service

Eld Lim Teck Chye (Father’s Love, Luke 15:11-32)

6:00 pm Evening Service

Rev (Dr) Jack Sin (O Send Out Your Light and Truth! Psalm 43)

25 June 2017

8am & 11am: Worship Service

Rev Charles Seet (Blessedness in the Time of the End, Daniel 12:1-3)

6:00 pm Evening Service

Bro Joel Seah (Be Still My Soul, Psalm 46)

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COPING WITH THE STRESSES OF FATHERHOOD

On this Father’s Day, we want to encourage all fathers in our midst to keep fulfilling their important role of fatherhood despite the stresses they face. According to an article in Time magazine, Asian fathers are shouldering more responsibilities than ever before. “Every day, pleading overwork, millions of men cancel millions of promises made to millions of children. Dads cannot read bedtime stories or go to the park. Dads are in their offices, or on the road, or on conference calls…. Spurred by the fear that their incomes will dry up or their jobs will be cut, many men work longer hours in a bid to prove their indispensability.”

Stress is not necessarily bad. It is quite normal and can actually help a person to concentrate, focus, and perform. It often helps us to reach our peak efficiency. In fact many people achieve their best work when they are under stress. The biblical expression, “Gird up thy loins” (e.g. Jeremiah 1:17) was used to exhort or command people to get themselves physically and mentally prepared to undertake a stressful task or face a stressful challenge.

What helps us to deal with this positive stress is that most of the time, there is a period of rest and relaxation after the task is accomplished or the challenge has been met. This gives our minds and bodies time to be refreshed and recharged before the next task or challenge comes. The problem arises when you don’t relax, or you can’t relax when a challenge comes along. If you have no time to rest, the unending stress that this puts on your mind and body will take its toll.

One of the main causes of constant stress is our technologically advanced environment. Although it is supposed to save us much time and labour and free us to pursue more important things in life, we seem to be working even harder and having much less time than we had before. Why is this so? It is because expectations have increased. The increased speed and efficiency that technology brings fosters a desire to take on additional responsibilities and activities.

The reasoning goes like this: Things that could not be done before can now be done. And since they can be done, they must be done! This gives rise to longer work hours, overtime work, work on weekends, at home and during vacation. Video-conferencing makes it difficult to escape from meetings and work obligations through the night!

Perhaps it is time for us to evaluate the choices we make instead of just following the trends and pressures of the world. In a book entitled, The Husband Book, Dean Merrill wrote: “Our jobs are somewhat like the proverbial camel asking to warm its nose inside the Arab’s tent. There’s nothing wrong with being nice to camels, but they don’t make good house guests. A job that is allowed to take over the entire life of a family is a job out of control. And it eventually wrecks the tent, everybody’s out in the cold, including the camel. What has been gained? Many of us have known super-achievers on the job whose personal lives were in such shambles that eventually even their careers were destroyed.”

We who are fathers may do well to heed the advice given to Moses by his wise father-in-law, Jethro: “The thing that thou doest is not good. Thou wilt surely wear away, both thou, and this people that is with thee: for this thing is too heavy for thee; thou art not able to perform it thyself alone.” (Exodus 18:17,18) Let us be realistic about how much we can bear. Perhaps we should cut down our workload to a more manageable level. Each of us has personal limitations. It would be foolish to deny this. In fact a refusal to be realistic about our own capacity may make us strive unknowingly after omnipotence and omniscience which are God’s alone!

Another major cause of stress is the inability to handle failure and frustration well. We Singaporeans have grown up in an achievement-oriented environment. We are told that we can achieve anything if only we work hard enough. We are pressured to meet shorter deadlines and comply with ever increasing standards of productivity and efficiency (Don’t we foster the same stress in our children when we expect nothing less than 80% for each test or exam?).

If we are able to meet these expectations, then well and good. But not everyone is able to do that. And not everyone who is able to do that can keep on meeting those expectations forever. As age catches up with us, and as more people perform better than us, there comes the inevitable sense of failure and frustration. The tremendous stress this creates can drive a person to total despair and even suicide.

Such thoughts were echoed to God by Moses when he was burdened with the needs of two million people in the wilderness: “Whence should I have flesh to give unto all this people? for they weep unto me, saying, Give us flesh, that we may eat. I am not able to bear all this people alone, because it is too heavy for me. And if thou deal thus with me, kill me, I pray thee, out of hand, if I have found favour in thy sight; and let me not see my wretchedness.” (Numbers 11:13-15)

How should we deal with failure and frustration? By learning to accept the things we cannot change, and acting upon those things that we can change. Look at your failures as opportunities for learning. The Bible records the failures of men whom the grace of God enabled to rise out of their failures. Your failures and frustrations serve a very useful function. They teach you where your limitations are – limitations that you must now accept. They can also teach you to depend more on God and less on self (cf. Philippians 4:13).

Fathers, if you feel frustrated at your inability to provide as much as you want for your wife and children, take this as your cue to trust in your heavenly Father’s sufficient provision for them (Matthew 6:30-32). If you ever feel burdened with a sense of failure because you have been retrenched from your job through no fault of your own, take this as a new adventure of faith to see how God will work in answer to your family’s prayer. How blessed and privileged you are! The precious lessons of faith you will learn will also enable you to empathise with and minister to those in similar straits later on.

And if your heart is heavy because of a child who has become rebellious and gone wayward despite all the faithful efforts, love, parental discipline and prayer that you and your spouse have put in to bring him up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, don’t sink in despair. It does not mean you have failed as a father, for even Adam and Eve rebelled against God despite the best provisions He had made for them in the garden of Eden. A father must provide the best for his child, but if the child fails, he is ultimately responsible for it, not his father.

And yet there is still hope available to the wayward child: There is forgiveness, cleansing, and strength to change. These are always available to the child that goes astray. The best you can do then as a father is to pray and wait patiently for his return, and be ready to receive and restore him. The day may come when, like the father of the Prodigal Son (Luke 15:20), you will have the inexpressible joy of seeing him returning home in repentance!

The stresses that we Christian fathers face in this present age are indeed beyond our capacity to cope with. But with God’s help and guidance we can and must press onward to be the fathers He wants us to be – fathers through whom God’s blessings are poured forth upon their children!

                                                         – Pastor 

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ERBLC SEMINAR 2017 (MPH)
Appreciating Christology from the Psalms
by Rev Philip Eveson
 

19-22 June 2017 (Monday—Thursday)
8.30 am—1.00 pm (Monday—Thursday)
7.30 pm—9.30 pm (Monday & Thursday)
 

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LTF 30th Thanksgiving Anniversary 2017

Theme            :           Remember Thy Creator in the Days of Thy Youth (Ecc 12:1)

Date    :           24 June 2016 (this Saturday)

Venue            :           Beulah MPH

Time   :           3—6 pm (Dinner provided)

*Parents are invited! Sign up links:
Teens : tinyurl.com/LTF30thRSVPteens
Adults :
https://tinyurl.com/LTF30thRSVP

 

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1) No more parking at St James Kindergarten with effect from next Sunday, 25 Jun 2017.  

2) Scripture Memory Verse Review No. 2. A written review exercise of the verses is obtainable at the front counter. Review No. 1 is also available for those who missed it. Please submit by 2 Jul 17.

3) “Daily Manna”: Daily Devotional by Rev Isaac Ong (Jul to Sep 2017). Available at the front counter. The same devotions are available online at http://www.calvaryjurong.com/index-4.html.
4)        LTF/YF Conference on four Saturdays: 1, 8, 15 & 22 July 2017. Contact persons: Theodore (9126-5779) & Shawn (9234-3276). Please sign up at http://tinyurl.com/LTFYFC17.
5)        Combined B-P Churches Reformation 500 Conference from 9 to 12 Aug 2017. Speaker: Dr Michael Barrett. Venues: Calvary BPC (9 & 10 Aug) and Life BPC (11 & 12 Aug). Please register at
http://www.lifebpc.com/reformation-conference.

6)        Catechism Class for Anniversary Baptism on 15 Oct 2017 commences on 9 Jul 2017 at Beulah Centre Rm 2-1, 9.40am. Please pre-register by emailing to Doris Chik or filling up the form available at the front counter. Those seeking baptism, reaffirmation of faith and transfer of membership must attend the catechism class. Closing date: 2 Jul 2017.

7) The family of the late Roland Teo Soon Khiam, wish to express their heartfelt thanks to pastors, session members and the church for your prayers, comfort, condolences and presence during their recent bereavement.

 Preaching appt: Rev Seet at Thai Svc, 2.30 pm.

 

 

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To build a united church family that is committed to making disciples through Salvation, Sanctification and Service, to the glory of God.

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Seeing then that all these things shall be dissolved, what manner of persons ought ye to be in all holy conversation and godliness, 2 Peter 3:11